There's a bit of BG to this, but if you want to skip, there's a TLDR at the end!!!› To summarize this up as quickly as I can, I (22F), unfortunately, have not celebrated Christmas since I was 13 years old. My family stopped celebrating when I was fairly young due to extreme and complicated religious reasons. Over the years, Christmas became a really confusing and depressing season for me, and the spirit of the holiday faded away quickly. As I got older and ventured out into the world, I found myself surrounded by others who celebrated Christmas-- and with that came a painful reminder and a lot of anxiety. Every year, I'd inevitably find myself explaining to everyone why I wasn't celebrating with my family.I've been gifted a few things the last few years from friends, but haven't fully celebrated with a family since I was young.This year, I've found myself in a serious relationship. We've been together for 9 months so far and have been living together in a small apartment for 2 months now. He (25M) has brought me to all his family celebrations. Its been hard at times to ignore the lack of my family's presence, but he still makes sure I feel loved, included, and like I'm part of the family. He even keeps hinting at how him and his family are gonna spoil me for Christmas, and while it is super sweet, it also makes me JUST as anxious about the whole thing. Just the thought of him including me in his family's celebrations means more to me than anyone could ever know, and now I'm struggling to figure out how to return the favor.› TLDR; This will be our first Christmas together, and my first in a LONG time. He's trying to make this super special for me since I haven't celebrated in years, but I really don't know how to make this special for him as well. I'm bad at buying gifts and honestly just don't know how to do this.He's the type of person who buys what he needs or wants, so I've just been racking my brain this past month and I really don't know what to do. I really need help.He's really into travelling, hiking, and occasionally biking. He seems to have all the gear he needs right now, though, and we just got back from a spontaneous mini-vacay. So I'm not sure if there's something I'm overlooking or anything else I can do to help in this area.He really likes music and vinyls, but again, buys the ones he wants already. He also buys tickets to shows on a whim but his schedule is unreliable, so I'm at a loss on how to surprise him to concerts.Enjoys playing Xbox, but like I said, buys the games he needs. I recently got him an elite controller, so I'm wondering if there's any other gear I could get him? Is it wrong to get him a gift card?Like honestly what do guys like? Would it be lame if I got him clothes? Is it inappropriate to buy things we would both benefit from, such as a new shower curtain or coasters that he's hinted at wanting to get? I'm just worried those aren't really sentimental or something he'd be excited to receive and I'm just really nervous and probably overthinking all of this lmao.Any suggestions or advice would be super helpful and appreciated, and I apologise for rambling in this post! via /r/Gifts https://www.reddit.com/r/Gifts/comments/e9sbts/celebrating_christmas_for_the_first_time_in_years/?utm_source=ifttt
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